What causes fear? Lack of confidence in oneself. Children need confirmation to build up their self-worth and self-esteem. Some people "motivate" their children by degrading them. Some even think spanking will do the job and make them stronger. Isn't it weird that people still believe negative approaches do the job?
I believe in positive reinforcement. We all like a pat on the shoulder. Don't you like your boss to tell you you did a great job? I'm sure your wife has a grin from ear to ear when you tell her you enjoyed her cooking.
Why is it so hard for people to compliment someone, especially a child? Children that aren't complimented in their childhood, become adults that thrive on fear. They are so afraid to do something wrong, to hurt someone, that they don't live their own lives. They keep living the lives someone else told them to live. Because that is safe.. New things scare them to death.. What if they fail? What if their boss doesn't like them?
Our whole life is based on guilt and fear. Isn't it about time for things to change? We need to comfort our children and praise them and guide them on their way to adulthood, without fear..
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