Splitting up

More and more couples decide to break up. It keeps me busy. I often ask myself why so many people split and try to find another partner. Is it the stressful society? Pressure? Financial problems? Sex? What causes this phenomenon?

I totally agree that couples should split up if they no longer get along. The first thing they should do is wonder if they still love each other enough to work on it, before they take the step to call it a quit. Especially when there are kids involved. Sometimes couples drift apart without knowing. They are so busy on different levels, that they loose track of one another. They forget to do grown up things as a couple, although they both take time for sports, going to a bar with friends, hang out with the mates or take the kids to their activities. It is tricky. Many people break up after having been together for 7 - 10 years. I hear that's a critical period in a marriage. We have passed that period I guess, because we've been together for 16 years already. If you think the preparation of getting married is a hard job, you'd better stay single. Because "being" married is a full time job. You need to work on it on a daily basis. It takes efforts and sacrifices. But if you love one another, you can conquer a lot.

And in the end, if it turns out that you are not made for each other, please shake hands and let go.. Don't wish for your ex the most horrible situations. Don't call each other bad names in front of the children. Don't bad mouth your former spouse, because he or she will always be the other parent of your offspring. And you know what? The children come first.. they really do. And all they want is to have happy parents, whether they live under the same roof or not. Why wouldn't you wish your ex-half the best? After all, you did love the other back then, when you got married. So maybe you should find the decency to treat the ex with the respect he/she deserves, no matter what they made you go through. Because after all, it takes two to be married.. Move on, get over it and try to bare with one another. For old times' sake and for your future life.. I have seen people move on and become happy again. I have seen others, that can't let go and keep playing the role of the victim, leaving them depressed and deprived of a good and happy life. It's up to you. You have a choice, even if you think you don't..