Saturday, September 19, 2009

Sexual fluidity

Has it occurred to you, that people, after they get divorced, sometimes choose a new partner of the same sex? It must be really awkward, if you have always been straight and then you find out that you really aren't. It's not that all of a sudden you become gay or something. It's more like loving the person for who that person is, without looking at the sex. People still feel uncomfortable around people that have a different sexual preference than they do. It's like they feel threatened in some way. I have gay friends and I have a friend that loves both men and women. It's interesting that people always want to pigeonhole others. They want to know about your sexual preference, like it matters to them. It's not something you choose, so what's the big deal? Maybe it's more important to know that you are loved and that you love back, whether you are gay or straight or anything in between. Having interest in the same sex and the opposite sex, doesn't automatically mean you are bisexual. It's pretty normal you know.

Kinsey has looked into this matter a long time ago. He's come up with a scale, name it the Kinsey scale, and you can test to see how you score on this scale. Not that it's important to me what preference you have, but just out of interest. We're human after all and humans are curious and love to do tests.
Being gay is not about sexuality, it's all about identity. It's about who you are from within.

There's not really a Kinsey test you can take, to see whether you are straight or gay or something in between. The scale is purely a method to evaluate yourself, based on your own personal experience. The rating you choose my change over time.
As you can see on the scale, it ranges from 0, for those who would identify themselves as purely heterosexual with no experience with or desire for sexual activity with the same sex ; to 6, for those who would identify themselves as purely homosexual with no experience with or desire for sexual activity with those of the opposite sex.
The scale 1-5 is for those who would identify themselves with varying levels of desire or sexual activity with either males or females.
Only 6% is purely within range 0 or 6. Now that is a surprise, isn't it? Then why is it so hard for us people, to acknowledge our dark side?

Don't worry. I'm still in love with my husband and I have never been sexually involved with a woman. Relax, will you?

0Exclusively heterosexual
1Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual
2Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual
3Equally heterosexual and homosexual; bisexual.
4Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual
5Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual
6Exclusively homosexual
XAsexual, Non-Sexual

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