Don't we all think that our own child is perfect? Don't we all want our children to be the best? A child that has the best school results and great friends. A child that can play several music instruments and recite the classic poems. A child you can take anywhere, because it will always behave and be the politest child ever. Of course as a parent, you pick the friends, and the school and the best education it can get. At least, to your knowledge and on your terms.. As long as you can brag about your child.. But is it about the child, or is it about you..?? A parent is supposed to love the child, unconditionally.
Do you, as a parent, ever realise how this controlling behaviour may affect the child? Does this way of raising a child make the child feel better about itself? I don't think so.. It creates children without any form of self esteem. It makes children feel insecure, nervous and never good enough. It's hard for a child if it doesn't get the chance to be who it really is. It has to live the parent's dream, despite it's own dreams and goals in life. They don't get the chance to grow up and make their own mistakes.
One day, those children become rebels. They get fed up with leading someone else's life. The only thing they want from their parents, is to be loved for who they are. No guarantees. No ifs and buts. No conditions and no terms. They only want to live up to their own standards and values. And guess what: they won't do that bad.. It may not be what you had in mind for them, but they'll do just fine..
The perfect child is the child that finds its own skills and abilities, with the love and support from its parents. Without the "told you so" when they screw up.. Let them find their own way. Give your child the credit it deserves. It will love you back, believe me..
Maybe the parents should try and live their own dreams and let their children grow up to be the person they choose to be. But of course, that's only my opinion.
Do you, as a parent, ever realise how this controlling behaviour may affect the child? Does this way of raising a child make the child feel better about itself? I don't think so.. It creates children without any form of self esteem. It makes children feel insecure, nervous and never good enough. It's hard for a child if it doesn't get the chance to be who it really is. It has to live the parent's dream, despite it's own dreams and goals in life. They don't get the chance to grow up and make their own mistakes.
One day, those children become rebels. They get fed up with leading someone else's life. The only thing they want from their parents, is to be loved for who they are. No guarantees. No ifs and buts. No conditions and no terms. They only want to live up to their own standards and values. And guess what: they won't do that bad.. It may not be what you had in mind for them, but they'll do just fine..
The perfect child is the child that finds its own skills and abilities, with the love and support from its parents. Without the "told you so" when they screw up.. Let them find their own way. Give your child the credit it deserves. It will love you back, believe me..
Maybe the parents should try and live their own dreams and let their children grow up to be the person they choose to be. But of course, that's only my opinion.
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